My love / hate relationship with sunscreen

When I was a kid there was no such thing as sunscreen. My mum had skin that wasn’t especially bothered by the sun but my dad, fair-skinned and blonde, burned like a lobster. So do I.

Neither of my parents had a clue as to what to do to prevent sunburn and, in fairness, I don’t suppose anyone else in that day and age did either. I remember going to Crimson Lake on a camping trip, playing in the water with the other kids, coming out of the lake and riding the merry-go-round, one of those push affairs, with bars stretching from the centre to the outside of a circular wooden platform. You grabbed one of the bars, heaved, and when the platform began to move, you grabbed the next one and gave it another heave, so that the contraption gradually picked up speed. The next order of business was to grab a bar and jump on. If the timing was off you might get whacked in the teeth, and if you slowed down the rotation by much you were sure to be subjected to a series of raspberries from the other kids who were already safely aboard.

When we got tired of the merry-go-round, or were so dizzy that we couldn’t walk straight, back we went into the water. After a day of this I had a pretty serious burn on my back and shoulders. I’m not sure what Dad had been doing while I was enjoying the beach but he was pretty red also. Mum didn’t know what to do. I think she put cream on my back but that didn’t stop the sting and the incredible heat. She probably gave me aspirin and I remember her telling me later that I spent most of the night whimpering in my sleep.

I don’t think I felt much like playing with the other kids the next day. It hurt too much to move. I was so hot that I really wanted to go back into the lake to cool off. I don’t think Mum was thrilled with the idea but she compromised and let me go if I put on a hat and wore a T-shirt. That was fine with me. From then on I was a little more cautious, wore the T-shirt, and spent more time in the shade. Well, most of the time.

A while after we got home, when the heat had gone out of the burn and the pain had turned to an itch, I remember sitting downstairs with Dad in his office where it was cool, peeling sheets of blistered skin off each other’s backs. I didn’t find that the least bit weird. Peeling off the dead skin decreased the itch.

No endorsement for any of these

After that I didn’t spend a lot of time in the sun. I remember trying cacao butter on my skin at one point, not to tan as the baby-oil set hoped to do, but to prevent me from burning. I don’t think it worked although it may have done something to keep the skin a bit more moist.

By the time I was an adult there were sunscreens and I used them. I like the feel of my face when it is freshly scrubbed and feels just a little bit tight. To have to ruin that lovely clean feeling with a lotion or cream was cause for considerable whining, although the memory of the few bad burns I had had were enough to eventually shut me up and get me to apply the stuff.

Once I had a job and steady income, I became interested in various outdoor sports, snowshoeing in the winter, a bit of downhill skiing, hiking, cycling and canoeing in the summer. Putting sunscreen on was part of the ritual of getting ready for the day’s adventures so, while I didn’t like the sensation of it, I did look forward to the miles in the forest, on the roads or on the rivers that it heralded. I joked that there should be a sunscreen setting on the shower so you could just jump in and douse yourself.

I managed to avoid serious burns for a number of years until I got married. For our honeymoon we went to Radium Hotsprings. Of course we had to take advantage of the pool and they didn’t allow any lotions or creams in the pool. No problem. Just stay in for a few minutes and then get out, go into the shade or the air-conditioned hotel room.

As we were enjoying the pool, someone called to Richard. It was a person he knew from teaching so we went over, stood in the chest-deep water, and chatted, and chatted, and chatted. I was enjoying the conversation and didn’t realize until it was too late that I was starting to sport that old familiar lobster glow. I knew from experience that the redness and pain would continue to increase for several hours even after I got out of the sun.

We said our goodbyes, got out of the pool, and Richard went in search of Solarcaine. It has a chemical smell but it does help to dull the pain of a sunburn. That certainly dampened the romance of the honeymoon. The only way I could stand to be touched was with a hand applying Solarcaine to the burn. I felt miserable and was cross with myself. If I had only put on a T-shirt, the burn wouldn’t have been limited to my face and arms. If I had left Richard to chat and gotten out of the pool sooner. If, if, if. Luckily Richard is a forgiving sort and he did not try to trade me in for a less crispy model. That is the last time I had a severe burn.

I still don’t like sunscreen and I’ve found myself recently staying in because the only kind of sunscreen I have is the mineral variety i.e. zinc. There have been advances since the skiers used to slap it on their noses so they looked like someone had covered their noses with vanilla icing, but I still think it makes me look like a failed mime or a ghost. And, it gets everywhere! I noticed a white film on the driver’s door the other day when I got out of the car. My collars and hats are streaked with white. Plus, it gums up the razor when I shave my legs.

Today I had a serious talk with myself. The weather is nice, not too hot, not too smoky, and it is absolutely ridiculous to stay inside because you don’t want to put on sunscreen. I checked out the Canadian Dermatology website for recommended brands, slapped on the zinc and walked to the nearest drug store. I now have a tube of what, I hope, will still protect my skin but will be a little less nasty.

Thank you sunscreen for keeping the burning rays at bay. No thank you sunscreen for being just plain icky. I have a feeling this love / hate relationship is not about to resolve anytime soon.

Of novels, sketch books, and friends

I recently finished reading The Invisible Life of Addie LaRue. There were parts of the book that I liked very much but somehow, it didn’t quite come together for me. I could launch into a detailed book review but that’s not what this is about. It is about how we remember and are remembered and it made me think, this morning, of three friends.

One is a former student who reached out to me after nearly 30 years to tell me that I had made a difference in her life. One is a Jewish friend who has adopted me and welcomed me into her home on ordinary days and High Holy Days, and one is someone I have known since both of us were in our teens. I’ll call the first one P because I have not asked permission to name her. I’ll call the second one S, and the third one L for the same reason.

P reconnected with me through Facebook and we have kept track of each other for several years now. Today P made a post that sent me scurrying to one of my notebooks. Actually, it’s an artist’s sketch book and, for me, it’s not quite a journal, not quite a scrapbook. It holds the important things that can be captured on paper either through words or images. I copied what P posted today, into my book on September 25, 2020, just after the death of feisty US supreme court judge, Ruth Bader Ginsburg. It is used in Reform Jewish Liturgy.

Meditations Before Kaddish
From the Mishkan T’filah

Epitaph
by Merrit Molloy

When I die give what’s left of me away
to children and old men that wait to die.
And if you need to cry,
cry for your brother walking the street beside you.
And when you need me, put your arms around anyone
and give them what you need to give me.

I want to leave you something,
something better than words or sounds.
Look for me in the people I’ve known or loved,
and if you cannot give me away,
at least let me live in your eyes and not your mind.

You can love me best by letting hands touch hands,
and by letting go of children that need to be free.
Love doesn’t die, people do.
So, when all that’s left of me is love,
give me away.

Today I needed to remember this. B’s mother died earlier this week at age 96. She lived a long and full life and there is relief in her passing. P and S are both wrestling with family issues, and I am feeling tired and worn down, for a host of small reasons.

Today the sky outside is a smokeless blue, the temperature is moderate, and I have made my first cup of tea at our new coffee station. We will soon be able to inhabit our new spaces and with that will come a purging of what no longer serves us from the past. We mourn not only people. We mourn experiences we will never have again, relationships that might have been different, and objects, once so important, that we will never use again. Perhaps as I go, unwillingly, through the collection of stuff, these words will help me to focus on what is truly important and allow me to let go of the rest. All things are no longer possible but there are still exciting possibilities. Perhaps “Epitaph” will help me achieve a balance between appreciating the past and anticipating the future.

May it be so.*

https://www.patrickcomerford.com/2020/01/when-all-thats-left-of-me-is-love-give

*The Reverend Erin Klassen of Scarboro United Church in Calgary often ends her messages with these words and I hope she won’t mind my borrowing them here.

A bit of smugness

I suck at selfies

There are many memorable moments. Sometimes they are huge and life-changing but, more often, they are the small incidents or brief encounters that are unexpected and delightful.

As you know we are having our house renovated. The reno, as most do, has been dragging on. This is through no fault of the contractor or the sub trades who have been working their butts off when they have time and materials at the same moment. We have anticipated stinky painting twice before and have gone off in the van to leave the house to the painter. Because of one thing and another, neither of those times actually resulted in the lacquer being applied to the cabinets inside the house. We had fun in the time away anyhow. This past week painting was, once again, on the schedule. Instead of heading for the hills we decided to stick around and get out of Dodge on lacquer day.

Yesterday was lacquer day. The painter came and told us it would take her about an hour to prepare. We finished our morning beverages, found the national park pass, after a bit of hunting, and headed off to Banff for the day.

It’s been a long time since I’ve been in Banff and, of course, it’s far from the town I knew when I lived there almost 40 years ago. We had been warned to park at the old railway station and walk into town. When we got there we were ready for lunch so we headed to a restaurant we’ve been to a few times and found we were ahead of most of the crowds. By the time we finished, there was a line-up at the door.

Fenland Trail

It was over 30 C so we decided to walk in the shade. New to me, is a pathway along the river from downstream of the bridge to the start of the Fenland Trail. We were going to head for Bow Falls but decided instead to take in the art walk in the other direction on the path. We carried on past the library and decided to walk the Fenland Trail Loop. In all the time I lived there, and all the times I’ve visited, I’ve never walked that loop. We were a little nervous because the sign at the beginning of the trail said that bear encounters were likely. We didn’t have bear spray with us and took a chance, hoping that all the bruins would be sleeping in the heat of the day and that enough people were using the trail that the bears would be elsewhere.

It was an enjoyable walk and I was happy to be in the shade rather than huffing up a mountain in search of great views. On the way back, we noticed there was no line-up at the canoe rental place. We debated about whether or not to rent a canoe and then, following my new ‘senior’s’ directions I asked myself, “If not now when?” We rented a canoe for an hour.

The canoes were fairly nice ones with no nods at all to the fact that they would be paddled mostly by people who understood little about how to get a canoe to do what you want it to. I’m not knocking those who want to have some fun by being on the water and who have little or no experience in canoes. That’s primarily why canoe rental places in tourist spots exist.

We filled out the waivers and R left his drivers’ license as collateral for the canoe. We got fitted with life jackets and then one of the guys working there handed us each a paddle. I asked for a shorter one; R asked for a longer one. I was in luck; R wasn’t. Paddles in hand we made our way down to the dock.

I didn’t realize that the most difficult part of the whole experience was going to be actually getting into the canoe. The canoes had moulded seats and it was a very long way down! I had my paddle across the thwarts and ended up kind of flopping into the canoe, without disturbing the balance of the craft. I wondered how inelegant I would be extracting myself at the other end.

Paddling upriver on the Bow

The guy gave us a gentle shove and we fell into our regular rhythm on our regular sides of the canoe. It felt familiar, comfortable, and companionable despite the chaotic traffic around the dock. We saw one canoe where both paddlers paddled on the same side and then when the direction went wonky they both changed so that they were both paddling on the other side. Nobody was actually going in circles although there was a lot of enthusiastic zigzagging going on and the majority of the canoes on the river seemed to be out of control to some degree. Some folks seemed to be enjoying the adventure while others looked entirely frustrated by a boat that was seemingly incapable or unwilling to go in a straight line. We paddled our way out of the chaos as soon as we could and then relaxed as we made our way up river. The current isn’t terribly strong and although there was a bit of a headwind we could make as much progress as we wanted to depending on how hard we wanted to work.

We both felt out of shape and realized that an hour’s paddle would be quite enough. Still, we had not forgotten the basic skills of moving the canoe and putting it where we wanted it to go. We kept our eyes out for sweepers and deadheads although we got fairly close to one because the river was murky. We figured out how long it would likely take us to get back. Because we were paddling upstream and against the wind on the way out we figured we’d be faster on the way back.

Mount Rundle from the canoe

The breeze on the water was lovely. We saw the remains of a beaver dam, some horse riders on the left shore, and a few killdeers flying along the shore and then landing farther upstream. We weren’t close enough to make out their colours but I recognized their characteristic flight. There didn’t seem to be any others going our direction but we kept meeting people coming down the river. Some folks had kayaks, some had paddle boards and others were in canoes. We exchanged greetings with some, and most looked happy to be out.

We decided to turn back shortly before our set time and the trip back was quicker than the trip out. We both remarked that, in the morning, we would probably feel a few muscles we hadn’t noticed in a while. As we came toward the rental area we rejoined the chaotically zig-zagging boats. We were confident that we could avoid any of them if we needed to. We stopped and let others approach the dock first.

When the guy on the dock motioned to us to come in we headed for the dock at a leisurely pace, came alongside and then I did a cross-bow stroke which brought us perfectly in line so he could grab a thwart and steady the canoe. “Wow,” he remarked, “You don’t usually see a cross-bow draw. That’s the best docking job I’ve seen from anyone who didn’t work here!” I was quite pleased with myself, quite pleased with us that some of the skills we developed over the years of wilderness canoe trips were still available for us to call upon. Neither of us had any illusions that we were capable of hopping in a canoe and undertaking a wilderness river trip but it felt extremely good to have caused a nice young man to take notice of the two old people who knew how to dock a canoe.

As predicted, getting out of the boat was humbling and not particularly graceful. R got out first, then braced himself, extended his hand and hauled me to my feet. From there I put a knee on the dock, climbed out, and then stood up. Not graceful, but grinning all the same. I think I will advocate for us to rent a canoe whenever the opportunity presents itself. It was a delightful experience and it will be one of those memories we return to often. ‘Remember the time we went to Banff when the kitchen was being painted and we rented a canoe?’ We will both smile. 

If not now, when?

The end of a personal era

I had an unusual childhood in that I never moved. No, not even once. Most of my friends moved at least a couple of times before they reached adulthood and moved out on their own. I moved out in my early 20’s to take a job in Banff and then I moved back home when I decided to return to university.

My parents were very generous in that way. Mum told me she thought she could feed three of us about as cheaply as she could feed the two of them, so lived there without paying room and board while I went back to get my degree in education. I had enough saved to pay for my tuition and books, to run my car and have some spending money. When I finished university and got a teaching job, my dad was sick and I stayed home. This time I split the costs of the household with Mum and helped her pay for some improvements to the house. When Dad died, I continued to live with Mum. We got along well and I was happy to look after the cats when she wanted to travel.

When Richard and I married and I moved into his house, I continued to feed the cats and look after Mum’s house when she travelled. In addition to talking to her on the phone almost every day, I visited her often, usually on Friday afternoons after work. I’d call her and say, “Put the kettle on. I’m coming over.” We would chat and drink a pot of tea before I left to have supper with Richard. Sometimes, I’d call him and the three of us would go to Mother’s Pizza for supper. It was a comfortable routine and I was in her house at least once a week unless I was away on holidays.

She stayed in the house for 19 years until she decided that it was time for her to move to a place where she would no longer be responsible for the upkeep of a house and yard. Over the years we had found good people to take care of the yard and had made modifications to the house to make it easier for her to live in it as she aged. Having always said that we could take her out of the house feet first, she decided on her own that the scenario had changed.

I remember driving her back to the house from the visit to the assisted living facility where she had just signed the papers. As we drove along the familiar Sarcee Trail she said, “Well, I hope I’ve made the right decision. If I haven’t I have no one but myself to blame.” I don’t think she was sorry, at least she never said so to me.

Of course that decision to move was followed by the cleaning out of the house. Richard was a huge help. He was available during the day at that point and if Mum fussed about something, he picked up the phone and dealt with the issue. He helped her sort through belongings to decide what she would keep and what would go. She was pretty unsentimental. She spent twenty-five years clearing up after Dad who was a bit of a packrat. I don’t think he crossed the line to hoarder but he certainly saved things because they might be useful later. Mum was determined not to leave that kind of chaos for me to clean up.

Mum hired a realtor and the day the sign went up, the guy from next door came to the house with an offer to purchase. Mum pointed him to the realtor and, in a matter of hours, the house was sold. I remember the realtor telling me he had chatted with the buyer, telling him he hoped the house was not going to be knocked down; it had good bones, and years more life in it. Over the next few months, we hired a company to move and disperse the rest of the stuff Mum left in the house. I remember walking through the house after the last load went out, leaving the keys, and writing a note to the new owner telling him how good the house had been to us and expressing the hope that it would be good to him as well.

After that, we watched as the house got another renovation to accommodate 4 suites. Whenever I drove by I saw the house numbers that I had painted on a piece of acrylic beside one of the doors. I also kept track of the spruce tree I planted when I was in grade 3. It was taller than the rest of the ones that still survived in the neighbourhood. Even when I didn’t drive down the actual street the house was on, I knew where to look for the tree as I passed the intersection.

A few years ago there was a ‘For Sale’ sign on Mum’s house and the one next door. We looked up the price and it was over one million dollars for both properties. The sign came down. The houses remained. Earlier this spring I saw a sign on the house next door. I didn’t actually see whether it sold or not but I never saw a sign on Mum’s house.

Because of the reno, we have been out of town a few times while the painter has been working. After our last trip, I drove by the familiar intersection on my way home and, out of the corner of my eye, I saw a construction fence. Immediately, I drove round the block and parked. There was nothing left. Both houses were gone. All the concrete was gone. My tree was gone. I had always hoped that I would have enough warning before the house was demolished so I could, somehow, salvage some of that spruce tree. The scenario had changed.

I always knew that would eventually be the fate of the house. There are now only two of the original bungalows in that block on that side of the street. I knew that the guy who bought it tried to purchase all the land from the house next door to the corner of the block on the other side of Mum’s house. Nobody wants to purchase that much land to keep 1950’s bungalows on it. Although Mum sold, owners on the other side of her didn’t, so the new owner of Mum’s house ended up with only the two properties side by side.

Once I get over being sad about the demolition, it will be interesting to see what kind of a structure replaces it. I’m betting that land will house eight units or more. Densification is the name of the game in these old, inner city, neighbourhoods. I was fortunate to grow up in a single-family dwelling with a big yard, on a relatively quiet street. I am fortunate now to live in a single-family dwelling with a smaller yard and a workshop. Now that Mum’s house, for it will always be ‘Mum’s house,’ is gone I will not have to watch it become scruffy or decay. It is frozen in time, frozen in my memory for as long as that memory continues to work. Time moves on.

Improvising the minutia

The renovation is getting closer to being finished each day. We are, of course, excited about the finished product and are getting a little impatient for it to be done. That said, it’s more anticipation than grumpiness because we have no complaints about the way the work has gone. The folks who are working on the job are all great, friendly, eager to answer our questions, and thoughtful. The quality of the work itself is impeccable. Each person who has worked on this has taken the same care they would take if this were their own house. We can’t ask for more than that!

As I headed to the shop today to do a pile of dishes, having gotten lazy and not done the ones from yesterday, I got the thinking about the accommodations we have made that are now just part of the routine. We collect the dishes in a dish pan downstairs where we prepare and eat most of our meals. We carry them up the stairs and into the shop where the out-feed table for my table saw becomes an auxiliary counter for the clean dishes. Since it’s raw plywood, we put down a tray with an absorbent dish mat inside it and onto the mat we put a dish drainer. I also lay a dish towel down on one side of the out-feed table to catch the drips because the table is wider than the tray. We take the tray downstairs and set it on a cabinet that has been displaced so that the main water shut-off to the house is readily available.

If we have more dishes than will fit into the dish pan, I have a piece of board from the old kitchen cabinets that I use to cover my sharpening stones on the right hand side of the sink and the extra dishes can sit there while they wait their turn to be washed. It all works pretty well and it will take us a while to get used to using the new dishwasher when it comes. In all of this I’m reminded of the people in Canada who don’t have access to clean water and for whom the system we have might be a luxury.

I have grumbled a bit about the set-up we have for hand washing in the bathroom although it does work quite well. About once a day one of us dumps the water from hand washing into the shower drain, rinses out the plastic tote, and takes the detergent container up to the shop to refill it with clean water. The push button on the detergent container is very convenient for washing hands. I don’t remember where I read that camping tip, but I’ve been grateful for it for the last month. We can use regular towels and our washer and dryer work which is another bonus.

Lighting is another thing we take for granted: flip the switch and you get light. At the moment there are very few switches, or lights, on the main floor. The bedroom and studies haven’t been altered so we still have lights there. There are also lights in the garage, on the outside of the garage, and in the entrance from the garage. There is one plug-in lamp in the living room and there are no lights in the kitchen or the dining room. No light in the hallway or the front steps either. We’ve had to think ahead a little when we’ve been going for walks at twilight. Leave a light on in the living room. Make sure the flashlights on our key rings are working so we can see to unlock the door.

That’s not much of an issue at the moment because the front steps have been demolished so we are using the garage as the entrance to the house and we have a very bright, motion-detecting light that shines on the cement pad. I have taken to leaving a pocket flashlight in the shop for whoever shuts off the lights for the night. That way we can turn off the landing light and see to get through to the bedroom.

During the presence of the recent heat dome we were without screens on the windows. We put a bed sheet up over the window in the bedroom and left the light off as much as possible. It was a bit more difficult when I wanted to work in my study after dark. I tried to work with the window open just a crack and only one task light on. The moths seemed to be able to get in anyway and I did end up swatting a few mosquitos. The screens we always took for granted are now a fresh delight every evening when we need to cool the house down.

In some ways, making our way through this reno has been a bit like camping: things are simplified. We don’t worry about the things that can be done later. We have food, water, a sturdy roof over our heads, and a reasonable level of convenience. I know that eventually all the changes we have made to the house will become part of the background to everyday living, but maybe it’s not a bad thing to have routines disrupted every once in a while so we can be reminded of how fortunate we are to live far beyond the necessities of life.

Renovation Day ... I have no idea!

The reno continues and we are happy with the results, although as we get farther and farther into it and can see glimpses of what the finished product will look like, it gets harder to be patient.

There have been regular bumps along the way and the supply issues caused by Covid 19. Each day the build moves in the right direction and that is what matters when combined with the first-rate workmanship of all the trades who have been here so far.

We have enough deck boards now so that we can sit out on the deck as I did yesterday morning. It’s not quite as pleasant as listening to the red-winged blackbirds that frequented the campground we stayed in this week, but it’s not half bad for being in the middle of the city. The house shades the deck in the morning and the Manitoba maple tree shades most of the deck in the afternoon and evening.

Now that we’ve been doing this since April, we know where more of our stuff is and so spend less time looking for things. We haven’t had a mirror in the one working bathroom for the last few weeks and when I see myself in a mirror I think,”Huh, so that’s what I look like.” We do have a full length mirror in the bedroom but I don’t often look at that one in my day-to-day comings and goings.

We have the dishwashing system working well and it will be a treat when we again have a dishwasher. The thing I will be most glad to retire is the jug-and-plastic bin set up for washing our hands in the bathroom. Somehow walking upstairs and into the shop to wash hands is just too much of an annoyance, hence the jug and bin. The shower works so when the bin gets full we empty the water down the shower drain. We fill up the jug about once a day. The washing machine and dryer still work although they share their space with the set of shelves that have been temporarily displaced from the bathroom. There’s a certain obstacle-course quality to laundry days.

With the heat we have been eating a lot of salads so haven’t needed to cook much. The Instant Pot does a great job of hard boiled eggs. Every once in a while we buy a dozen, hard cook them and use them in salads and sandwiches. We have three working fridges if you count the one on the van so we can certainly keep things cold.

We were out of the house last week so painting could happen. The cabinet fronts aren’t here yet so we’ll have another round of painting when they arrive. The floor is done and we love it! We have new windows but no screens. It’s been so hot we’ve needed to have the windows open and the fan going at night and. Knock wood, we haven’t had too much of a problem with tiny winged creatures getting into the house.

The rest of the boards for the deck are somewhere in transit and we’re hoping they will be here next week. I think the new front door should be here fairly soon as well and that means that the front of the house can be finished. We will still have to have a security screen door made since the new door is wider than the old one. All the appliances are at the dealer’s so there won’t be any holdups there when the time comes to install them.

We’ve been able to visit Odie a number of times. He is always glad to see Richard and, in his own quirky way, glad enough to see me once he has fawned over Richard for a while. This is the longest time he has ever been away from us.. Soon it will be time to pull out all the pieces of his cage, drag them to the front lawn and clean them all up with the hose, then hope we can figure out how the cage goes back together again.

Having said we haven’t had much trouble with bugs I just dispatched a very quick little white bug motoring up the handle of my tea spoon.

I think that’s enough of a ramble for the moment. Concrete work is still to come as is the installation of cabinet doors, counter tops, appliances, lights, switches and faucets. It’s coming together and we can see now that the new configuration will work very well for us. Patience, patience.




Stay tuned.

Finding the extra-ordinary in the ordinary

This is a different sort of post. This Sunday our church is starting a theme that will take a number of Sundays to explore: The Extra-Ordinary and the Ordinary. As an ex-English teacher I'm all over that kind of thing so I volunteered to be the first one of the congregation so say something about it. This is what I will say. I hope some of you will also think about the requests I have at the end. Don't worry; it won't cost you anything and nobody will know if you do consider them or not.

The last year and a half has been extra ordinary for many reasons and because of that I have been forced to spend more time considering ordinary events, events that, in other circumstances, I would likely have passed over without much thought. By spending a bit more time on the small and ordinary, I have found extraordinary joy.

As most of you know, I was a high school teacher. I have no siblings and I have had very little to do with young children. We live in an older neighbourhood which is now seeing young families move in. Three children of elementary junior high age live across the alley. Two children, one in kindergarten and one in early elementary, live next door.

The girl across the alley loves to draw and paint and the compact greenhouse that backs on the alley bears the slogan ‘grow tall little plant.’ She has painted colourful flowers all over the front of the green house. Whenever I see it, I smile.

She is also interested in our parrot. One day Richard received a text from her mother saying that there was something for me outside our garage door. When I went to look, I found a clay model, a couple of inches tall of Odie complete with the correct colours of his head, breast and back feathers. This ‘quiet version’ (the real version is quite noisy) of Odie now sits on shelves above my desk.

During the early days of the pandemic when children were out of school for the first time, this same artist painted Odie on her patio door. As the seasons changed so did Odie’s attire. At first, he was just plain Odie, then as Christmas approached Odie showed up one day with a Santa hat on and a string of Christmas lights near his foot. I’m wondering if Odie will sport a cowboy hat this summer and wait eagerly to see whatever version of Odie appears. If he has served his purpose as a window decoration, and is replaced by something else, that’s okay too.

On our anniversary last summer, we looked out the door to see the words ‘Happy Anniversary’ on the sidewalk in front of our house in brightly coloured chalk.  It was the work of the girls next door, with some help from their mom.

The other day when I was in the house and Richard was outside, the younger of the two girls picked a blossom from their tree, walked over to him, handed him the blossom and announced it was for me. When he finished his conversation, he came in the house and delivered the present. I set it on the desk beside me where it briefly scented the air. 

Perhaps these are the ordinary things children do but I am only now discovering them, and to me they are extraordinarily lovely.

So today, I have two requests of you:

First, this week take time to look closely at ordinary things so you may find in them extra-ordinary things

Second, note each time you find something extra-ordinary. There will be time in upcoming services for you to share your experiences so we can all enjoy them with you.