January had been large. I learned that term last year from a Newfoundlander. Rather than physical size ‘large’ refers to impressive, generous, substantial, or intense. January was certainly the last two of these.
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| Bruce reminisces during our last visit |
My uncle, my mother’s only brother, died in the middle of the month in his hundredth year. Bruce was the last person to have known me as a baby. While we often lived in different cities he was a steady influence in my life. Those of you who know me well also know that my dad was explosive and, while he never took out his anger or frustration on either Mum or me, he often broke things and when he was doing a project there was always a point where he cussed loudly at the nut that wouldn’t move or the piece that wouldn’t fit. I don’t think he actually swore, but the loud explosions and banging of tools as he tossed them away were enough to make me fold in on myself in an attempt to become invisible.
Bruce was different, measured in his responses, gentle and thoughtful. I never heard him raise his voice although my cousins, David and Heather, could probably tell you that he did, sometimes. Even when I was little Bruce gave me the same kind of focused attention he gave adults and I never doubted that I could go to him for help if I needed it.
Once when he and Grandma took a trip to Florida, he brought back a stuffed baby alligator, and a conch shell for me. He also gave me a pogo stick at some point. He knew me well enough to bring me gifts that interested me. He never brought me dolls which, according to my mother, I used as hammers.
I remember sleeping over at Bruce and Grandma’s place when I was in early elementary school. Staying over was a really unusual occurrence. Now that I think of it, it might have only happened once. Bruce gave me a couple of plastic figures of hockey players. I took them to bed with me and when I woke up in the morning I couldn't find them. When he came in I was in tears not because of the figures themselves, but because I had lost his gift. He found the figures, handed them to me and said, “I thought something serious had happened to you.” I knew he was glad nothing serious had.
When Bruce and Phyllis were married, Phyllis asked me and her sister, JoAnn, to be bridesmaids. I was nine and that was the only time I was ever part of a wedding party. From then on we became part of Phyllis’s extended family and spent many Christmases and Thanksgivings with her parents, siblings, their spouses, and children. I loved being part of that large adopted family.
I don’t remember calling on Bruce for help very often but when either Richard or I almost put a foot through a rotten board on our deck, Bruce came over to help me repair it. He could build just about anything and when I became interested in woodworking, he gave me a number of my grandfather’s tools. My grandfather died before I was born and I’ve always wondered what it would have been like to watch him work. While I don’t actually use many of his tools, seeing them makes me feel as if I knew him.
When our shop was finished Bruce gave me Grandad’s try plane, and his tongue-and-groove planes. When he and Phyllis moved into a seniors’ residence Bruce allowed me to go through his tools and pick out the ones I wanted. Most days in the shop I use something of his. Bruce moved a small tool box with a few screw drivers, wrenches, and the like with him. He also kept Grandad’s wooden smoothing plane.
When we visited in December we knew Bruce was dying. My cousins needed to clear out his office in order to move a bed in so someone could stay with Phyllis to offer support during the night. The smoothing plane was in Bruce’s office, not with the other tools. David offered it to me and I wondered about its significance. What made this plane more special than all of Grandad’s other tools? Maybe I can make a guess.
While the other planes have the names of my grandfather and my grandfather’s uncle stamped into them, this smoother has only my grandfather’s name and the name of the maker: D Malloch of Perth Scotland. Grandad’s name is stamped into the plane in six places. I wonder if he bought it new and exuberantly used his tradesman’s stamp in as many places as he could. Did the plane cost him many week’s wages? Was it special to Bruce because it represented a milestone to his father, this young man who moved with his tools and his skills from Scotland to make a new life in Canada?
The plane is now in my keeping. It has been used hard. There is a crack in the side and it wouldn’t take much use for that crack to work its way through the body of the plane. There is a chip on the toe that has been filled with what is probably sawdust and glue. The wooden wedge that holds the blade in place is compressed from the repeated hammer blows needed to seat the blade. While I don’t know the precise significance to Bruce, I know he valued it. Now it sits on a shelf in my study beside my clock where I see it many times a day. Each time I see it I remember Bruce.
Bruce and I had a running joke in the last couple of years. Whenever it was time for goodbyes, I would hug him and say, “You’re my favourite uncle, you know.” He would smile and reply, “I’m your only uncle!” Both of us were telling the truth.
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| The plane has its scars |
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| Crack in the side |
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| Chip filled with sawdust and glue |
The plane is now in my keeping. It has been used hard. There is a crack in the side and it wouldn’t take much use for that crack to work its way through the body of the plane. There is a chip on the toe that has been filled with what is probably sawdust and glue. The wooden wedge that holds the blade in place is compressed from the repeated hammer blows needed to seat the blade. While I don’t know the precise significance to Bruce, I know he valued it. Now it sits on a shelf in my study beside my clock where I see it many times a day. Each time I see it I remember Bruce.
Bruce and I had a running joke in the last couple of years. Whenever it was time for goodbyes, I would hug him and say, “You’re my favourite uncle, you know.” He would smile and reply, “I’m your only uncle!” Both of us were telling the truth.
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| My favourite uncle 1926 - 2026 |
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